Dating and Relationship Advice

Dating these days is a minefield. There are so many people out there, and so many platforms to meet them on. Now we don’t just talk to people in person; we can call, text, Zoom, Snap, and more. And with so many methods of communication, it’s really hard to know whether someone is into you or not.

Let’s remove the guessing. Here are four signs he’s attracted to you.

He Gives as Much as He Takes

Reciprocity means that when you give something, the recipient gives you something of equal or greater value in return. Now, relationships are not always exactly equitable. It’s not realistic to expect that every time you give, you get something equal and greater in return. But generally speaking, someone cares about you if they reciprocate your actions and words of care and respect.

In online dating, it’s hard to know if someone is reciprocating your advances. But if you’re always sending lengthy messages or updates and they’re not reciprocating? It could mean they’re not interested. Alternatively, when someone is interested, you’ll see it. They’ll return calls and texts. They’ll set and keep times to meet up. They will express interest that is closely equivalent to yours.

He Doesn't Breadcrumb You

We all know those people. The ones who flit in and out of our lives. They drop a few texts or calls here and there, and then just when you’re interested and reciprocate, it’s radio silence. When they think interest is waning, they start responding again, leaving you breadcrumbs to follow and then leaving you hanging.

Experiencing breadcrumbing can be challenging because it’s confusing. We can’t tell if the person likes us or not, or if we’re doing something to affect their behavior. People can breadcrumb for various reasons, many of which may not be about you. But at the end of the day, it means he either doesn’t like you or value your time.

If he likes you, he will be consistent. He may not answer every single time, but he will generally respond and reciprocate. He will make plans and make a general, consistent effort to see and speak with you.

He Shares Beyond Surface-Level

Many people are somewhat guarded when they meet someone new, which is understandable. Typically, as people become more comfortable and learn to trust one another, they share more. Trust builds, and that’s when shared vulnerability can happen.

If he opens up to you, it’s a good indicator that he’s interested. Generally speaking, humans don’t open up to people we don’t like or trust. It’s a good sign that you’re establishing comfort and trust if you both start to share more personal information. It builds the foundation for a strong relationship.

He Introduces You to Important People in His Life

When we like people, we generally want them to meet people we love. If he introduces you to key members of his support system, he’s into you. This means he’s proud to be seen with you, and you are important enough that he wants others to know it.

If he doesn’t introduce you to his friends and family, it could mean indifference, or it could mean he is estranged from some people. But if you keep asking him or he continues to make odd excuses to skirt opportunities to meet his friends and family, it could be a red flag.

The Takeaway

It’s really hard these days to know when someone likes you. You can watch out for several key signs. Check for consistency, reciprocity, and vulnerability. If he consistently shows up, gives in ways similar to you, and shares more than surface-level information with you, it’s a good sign he’s into you. If he introduces you to the important people in his life, that’s a big bonus.

Just because someone doesn’t show these qualities doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t like you. But do you really want to spend time with someone who doesn’t?

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