Dating and Relationship Advice

Guys, I’m sure you’ve all been there: you’re texting back and forth with a new love interest. It's witty. It’s fun. There’s flirting and innuendos. And then, suddenly, crickets... She stops responding. WTF?!

Speaking as a woman, sometimes she doesn’t respond because She’s Just Not That Into You (that was a great movie, amiright?). Sure, it’s really rude of her to ghost you rather than just come outright and say she’s not interested anymore, but it happens.

However, there may be times when she stops responding for another reason. Maybe she’s slammed at work, stressed out with a family issue. Hell, she could even be moving and is super distracted by security deposits and sketchy moving companies with gross vans and lots of BO.

If you’re not ready to give up on a new relationship yet, what can you do?

Get her attention again. Send her a text inspired by these “get noticed” ideas to see if you can get relight that spark:

Be Bold

You want her to notice you, so be bold. Try sending something like, “I guess you’re really busy, I’ll stop bugging you.”

If she reads this text and doesn’t want the relationship to end, she’ll probably respond right away. If She’s Just Not That Into You, it will spur her to explain her lack of response and end things the right way.

Tease

Poke fun at her a little bit, “Jeez lady, my Grandma texts back faster than you and she’s 85!”

A little bit of teasing opens up a fun, easy door for her to text back through. No stress, no pressure, just fun.

Talk Up the Future

Maybe it’s just me, but I find it very romantic when a guy hints at a future.

“We’re not even officially dating yet and you’re already ignoring me! What’s going to happen in a few months?”

Of course, only say something like this if you mean it. But if it is sincere, it can be very endearing and remind her why she liked you in the first place.

Be You

The best advice for getting a girl to respond? Be yourself.

Use these ideas as inspiration to create authentic versions that showcase who you are. Trust me, any girl can smell a used, tired line a mile off.

Plus, if you are unapologetically you and she still doesn’t respond or seem interested, then you know for sure that it’s not a good match. You don’t want to be with her anyway. You deserve someone who appreciates you for who you are.

Don’t Push It

With all this being said, no still means no.

If you try one of these tricks and she still doesn’t text back or she responds with an “I’m not in a good place right now,” “I’m super busy at work,” “I just got out of a serious relationship” or any other variation of, “I’m not interested”—it's game over. Drop it. Move on.

Don’t be the guy that tries to harangue a girl into a date. That’s not a good look on anyone.