Keeping The Spark When You’re Apart
Long-distance relationships can be challenging. Of course, this is pretty common knowledge. No one goes into an LDR thinking it’s going to be all sunshine and butterflies. But, oftentimes, the “little concerns” we have along the way turn into major problems in the relationship.
One of the biggest problems of an LDR is keeping the spark alive. We live in a world that depends on instant gratification, simply because of all the convenience we are able to utilize in our everyday lives. But with an LDR, convenience is stripped from us—and many people don’t know how to handle that.
If you’re in a long-distance relationship, or if you’re thinking about entering one, here are some tips that will help you to navigate this unfamiliar territory and keep that sexy spark alive.
Communication should be the top priority for you and your partner if you are in an LDR. Every couple likes to communicate differently, whether it’s by phone, text, video chat, or email. There are legitimately a million ways to connect in our modern-day world, so lack of communication is simply unacceptable.
It’s vital, however, that you and your partner respect each other’s choices for communication—such as how, when, and how often the two of you communicate. There should be some sort of agreement between the two of you, though it doesn’t have to be a written contract or anything formal. A simple conversation about your needs and desires will help to create a communication schedule and routine that will allow each person to get what they need and deserve.
Of course, when we talk about keeping the spark alive, we have to touch on the sexual aspect of the relationship. Physical touch is extremely important to a relationship, but of course, in an LDR, that is impossible to do every day. So, you must find other ways to fulfill those needs.
Sending sexy photos, flirty calls, and hot video dates (with lingerie, of course!) are all ways to communicate in sexy ways with each other. Not only is this a fun way to spend time with each other while you’re apart, but it’s also a great form of foreplay that will get you excited for when you can actually be together.
Long-distance relationships should not last forever. The whole purpose of an LDR is to get through it so that in the end, you can be together in person. But, we can’t be expected to wait until the very end to see that special someone. That’s why planning visits are extremely important in order to keep the spark alive and well.
Depending on how far you are, seeing each other regularly, even once a month, can be hard. It’s up to you and your partner to decide what will work for the two of you. If you are both dedicated to "making it work," and putting in the effort of traveling, then your relationship has a high chance of successfully making it through the torturous LDR.
Remind Each Other
Simple reminders of your love are vital to keeping the spark alive. Sometimes, as humans, we get caught up with our everyday stressors and we forget to look at the bigger picture. This happens to us, more often than not, in long-distance relationships. We focus on how that person is not physically there, rather than reminding ourselves that they will be there in the future.
Strong couples help each other get through the bad days by reminding the other person of future plans, sending sweet notes or gifts, and being there for them without physically being there. There are a lot of ways to make your lover feel special when you’re far apart, you just need to put in the work and get creative.