Is He Attracted to Me?

Whenever you see someone new, do you wonder if he is attracted to you? You're likely not alone in that regard. It's perfectly normal to wonder and want a new person you are into to find you physically appealing. After all, here at Iris Dating, we believe that physical attraction is critical to building a long-lasting relationship. Matches on iris are more likely to be attracted to each other than in other dating apps, as iris filters people by attraction. This is done so that there is mutual attraction between both of the people in a match.

You may be asking, "How do I know if he is attracted to me?" It can be hard to tell for those who are a bit more oblivious to these things. Hopefully, by the end of this piece, I can help you get a little better at telling if he is into you.

Does He Contact You First, at Least Some of the Time?

When my partner and I were getting to know each other, he texted me first almost every single morning. He hated his job at the time and said his texts with me were what got him through the day. That may not seem like a big deal, but it showed that he wanted me to be in contact with him. It wasn't one-sided by me sending all the texts trying to get his attention. I know how that game goes because almost every other relationship I was in had me doing the chasing.

If he wants you, he’ll be in touch.

Does He Compliment You Often?

Compliments are one of the easiest ways to gauge attraction. If he thinks you're absolutely stunning, one of the most obvious ways for him to let you know would be for him to say it. For example, I was taken aback once when we were just in the "talking" phase.

He called me while he was out with his friends and when I said hello, he responded with, "Hey, Beautiful." I was surprised because, in my experience, guys won't be so open around their friends. What's the difference with my guy? I guess he was smitten. As I said before, a man who knows what he wants will make it known.

Does He Go Out of His Way to Touch You?

Touching is a pretty big sign that he is attracted. However, I don't mean in creepy ways that make you uncomfortable. If his touches make you uncomfortable, trust your gut and stay away. I mean little gentle touches, something like putting a hand on your shoulder during conversation or maybe a consensual hug. Yes, touching is done in friendships too. If you are two are digging each other, you'll be able to tell the difference between friendly and romantic desire by body language and longing looks.

If he doesn't do any of these things, does that mean he's not attracted to you? No, not necessarily. Everybody’s love language is different, and attraction can be shown in many ways. Some guys tease the people they find appealing. The points made here are more of a general pattern of gauging attraction. Once you can tell that he is attracted, romance could potentially bloom. Attraction is the first step.