How to Tell if There’s Mutual Attraction

This statement may seem obvious, but mutual attraction is crucial in a successful relationship. I've been in a few relationships, and all the ones where I was crazier about the guy than he was of me failed. The same went for the reverse situation. Lucky for us, Iris Dating tries to put the odds of mutual attraction in our favor. You can check out my recent article on that topic where I answered the questions  "What is mutual attraction?" and "How Can You Recognize it?".

However, Iris Dating app can only get us so far. Once we've connected with someone, we have to make sure that mutual attraction is maintained. How do you know if a mutual interest is there? Look out for these factors. If they are present, you probably have a mutual attraction.

Do you both make an effort to initiate contact?

In another previous article of mine, I talked about what it was like when my partner and I were getting to know each other. He actively made an effort to be the first to make contact. That may not seem like a big deal, but it showed that he wanted me to be in contact with him. It wasn't one-sided by me sending all the texts trying to get his attention. I know how that game goes because almost every other relationship I was in had me doing the chasing. Obviously, those other guys weren’t as attracted to me as I was to them.

Keep in mind that a relationship is a mutual partnership. I also had a responsibility to initiate first contact at times. If he was busy and didn't have time to hit me up first, I would send him a nice message. It showed him that I would also make an effort, and his affections weren't one-sided. A bonus is that it gave him something to look forward to seeing.

Is affection shown on both sides?

Compliments are one of the easiest ways to gauge attraction. Are you both giving regular compliments? You'd be surprised how far good praise goes, especially on a bad day. While we're on the subject, if your partner even knows how to figure out that you had a bad day, I bet you have a mutual attraction.

What about touch?

Touching is a pretty big sign of mutual attraction. It doesn't even have to be linked to sexual intimacy. If you or your partner reach out to give each other a comforting pat on the shoulder during a conversation, an outsider would probably think there is mutual attraction.

Body language

If you are two are digging each other, you'll be able to tell the difference between friendly and romantic desire by body language and longing looks. Do you look at each other often, blush, or get flustered around each other? Those are strong signs of mutual attraction.

What about before meeting?

You might be thinking, “Well, that’s all fine and good, but how do I know if there’s mutual attraction before we meet in person?” Are they responding to your messages often? Have you progressed to text messages and phone calls? If the answer is yes to the first question, you will probably be on your way to texts and calls soon. If you have gotten to those stages, they most likely want to meet you as much as you want to meet them.

If you don't do any of these things with your partner, does that mean there is no mutual attraction? Absolutely not. Everyone's love language is different. Some couples like to tease or play practical jokes on their partners. It depends on your individual personalities. If you are still in the before meeting stages, I would say the tips stated here are good ways to determine mutual attraction.