Dating and Relationship Advice

If you’re a single man who uses dating apps, chances are you've had some trouble finding what you’re looking for. Maybe you’ve swiped right on a lot of people but don't have many matches. Or maybe you have matches but can't get a conversation going.

Don't sweat! Below are four tips to set up a great online dating profile for men, which will help you match with compatible people and start meaningful conversations with them.

Your Profile Is Your Sales Pitch

When making your online profile, try to think of your profile as a sales pitch to the potential dating pool. In a way, you are competing against thousands of other men, so you want to make sure you stand out from the crowd.

Avoid listing general hobbies that many men use — like hanging out with friends, listening to music, and other common activities. Exaggerate your good qualities and leave out the bad, unless it involves a major obstacle that you overcame. (For example, you used to be an alcoholic but are now 10 years sober.)

Bonus points for the men who show off their dog or their kids in their profile. Men with these types of photos come off approachable, warm, and caring, so you’ll be more likely get matches and receive responses to your messages.

Post High Quality Photos

When posting pictures of yourself on your profile, you want to make sure that you have a variety that showcase both your personality and your lifestyle.

Make sure that you have at least one picture of your face and one full body photo. Studies have shown that people are naturally more attracted to people who look happy, so don’t forget to smile!

In addition, feature one or two photos of you doing something you’re passionate about. Whether it's spending time with your family, playing fetch with your dog, working hard on the job, or volunteering at an animal shelter, people who view your profile want to get a sense of what is important to you.

Tell the Truth in Your Bio

Regardless of what kind of relationship you're looking for, it is critical that your bio is truthful. If you are looking for something casual, don’t waste someone’s time by saying you are open to a serious relationship.

For the single dads reading this — don't try to hide that you have children, especially if you’re looking for a serious relationship. This may lead to unnecessary conflicts in the future. If you’re a man who likes to get to the point, you can even disclose what role you are looking for your future partner to play in your children’s lives.

Make a Good First Impression after Matching

I'd like to take a moment here to let every man know that sending nudes is a no-no. Don't do it — there is a 99% chance you won't get a response (also, it's extremely creepy).

Another big no-no is sending the same templated greeting to every partner you match with. They can usually tell you’re not putting any thought into it and it makes them feel like they're just a number, not a person.

If you’re having trouble deciding what to say, imagine you’re trying to get a girl’s attention in public. A great idea is to start with a genuine compliment! People love being flattered and appreciate that you took the time to say something personal.

Online dating can be overwhelming, but developing a relationship isn't impossible. One of the best ways to improve your chances is to show your true personality, values, goals, and lifestyle on your profile. By doing this, you are giving your potential partners a well rounded vision of yourself, and are one step closer to finding what you're looking for.