Dating and Relationship Advice

Dating nowadays can feel hopeless — and it has something to do with the terrible advice we receive.

A lot of people insist that the key to romance is to play games and change who you are, but that advice just leaves you feeling bad about yourself.

Luckily, there are some people who understand that the best dating life comes when you love who you are instead of when you try to change yourself; that leaning into authenticity is when you develop true confidence.

If you've been lacking in the confidence department when it comes to your dating life, then you don't want to skip over reading these gems.

Just Send The Text by Candice Jalili

If modern dating makes you feel like there’s something wrong with you, then you should read Just Send The Text. In it, Candice is a voice of reason that explains that modern dating is the one that's messed up, not you. She helps readers embrace who they are and to stop letting stress consume the potential joy from their love lives.

Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies by Tara Schuster

Tara is a brutally honest, hilarious TV exec who sheds light on how mental health (and life in general) can make us lose sight of what matters most: our happiness. Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies teaches people about self-love but in a non-cliché way that won’t make you want to roll your eyes. By the end of it, you really will want to buy yourself your own f*cking flowers.

Ask a Queer Chick by Lindsay King-Miller

Let’s be honest here: the choices for dating advice catered to the queer community are very slim. That’s why Ask a Queer Chick is greatly needed, regardless of whether you’re newly out or have been for years. Lindsay describes every obstacle you may encounter when navigating the dating world as a queer woman, and she does so in a way that’s like talking to a wise older sister.

Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab

If you’ve ever felt mistreated or disrespected in your love life, yet didn’t stand up for yourself, then you most likely struggle with a little something called boundaries. Nedra explains why boundaries are essential for feeling confident and how they can lead you to a more fulfilling life, love included.

Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller

Have you ever considered that the way your parents raised you as a child might affect your love life as an adult? Well, that’s where Attached comes in. Attachment theory helps people understand the way they act in their love lives based on their past experiences. By understanding your attachment style, you can better understand yourself and date authentically.

Whole Again by Jackson Mackenzie

When you go through trauma or an emotionally abusive relationship, you’re left with scars that affect how you show up for love today. Whole Again explains how to heal from abuse and move on in an authentic way for you. Because you deserve to feel whole again and to no longer be held back by your past.