Dating and Relationship Advice

Endometriosis is a common inflammatory disorder in which the tissue that usually lines the uterus grows outside the uterus. While there are a myriad of painful symptoms that come along with having an endo diagnosis, sufferers like myself know that one of the most irritating problems is the damper this condition puts on our sex lives.

I experience a sharp pain during intercourse, and sometimes an ache in my pelvis for days after the fact. This has inhibited my sexual desire in the past, but I have found successful tips for relief that allow me to crave sex once again. Here are five tips that can minimize the vaginal distress for someone with endometriosis. (Disclaimer: I'm not a doctor, but these are some tips that have helped me personally!)

Specific Sex Positions

Some positions can cause greater discomfort than others—the trick is finding the best poses for making sex an enjoyable experience for the both of you. Sex is not meant to be one-sided, as both partners should achieve climax. The best positions are:

  • Reverse Cowgirl — You have more control over how deep and fast the sex is.
  • Steamy Shower Sex — The steam from the shower can alleviate inflammation, resulting in little to no pain.
  • Let Him Spoon Ya Sex — When he spoons you for a good sex sesh, the positioning doesn’t allow for overly deep penetration.
  • Laying Down Doggy Style — Regular doggy style is one of the most painful sex positions because of how deep his penis goes into your vagina, but when you’re laying down and he is on top of you, you’ll find relief from what you’re used to.

CBD Intimacy Products

CBD—otherwise known as cannabidiol—is a trendy cannabinoid found in the hemp plant. CBD is non-impairing, unlike cannabis. There are endless benefits to consumption. However, the anti-inflammatory properties that it possesses makes life easier for endometriosis sufferers.

You can purchase CBD-infused arousal oils or lubrication—they take effect within 15-20 minutes after application. This kind of intimacy product increases circulation in the pelvic region, which enhances pleasure while fighting inflammation so you can find sexual enjoyment.


When you communicate with your partner, he or she should understand that there are times when sex isn’t possible for you. If you’re going through an endo flare-up, and you know that intercourse is going to hurt, express yourself. Maybe you can find another solution, assuming you’re in the mood—for instance, oral sex and mutual masturbation will never go out of style!

Track Your Cycle

For endo sufferers, sex is often more painful before our menstrual cycle, during menstruation, and through ovulation. When you track your cycle, you can check days off on a calendar that are not so good for sex. You should also consider keeping a journal and logging your symptoms during certain parts of the month—this will help you in the months (and even years) to come.

Avoid Deep Penetration

The deeper your partner penetrates you, the more likely you are to feel that sharp and stabbing sensation. This can cause discomfort for days after the fact, and who wants that? Part of healthy communication is telling your partner when something is too much, too deep, or too fast. Once you find the right rhythm and combine it with other relief techniques, you're on the right track towards embracing your sexual desires, without endo causing so many disturbances.

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